Winning Your Wife's Heart

Got some questions for you husbands...

How are you intentionally winning your wife's heart?

You might be thinking, what are you talking about, winning my wife's heart? She is my wife, there is a ring on her finger, we are married, what more could I do? Of course I have her heart!

Well, I'm talking of intentional care for your wife, which leads to winning her heart. Not giving her an allowance, taking her for dinner, making sure she has clothes & flowers once in a while. Occasionally calling her, telling her you love her. Though, all of those things are great, and those things should continue. I guess what I am hinting at is, could you be doing more to win her heart & becoming closer at heart?

Here are some suggested questions that may help you win her heart further...

1. What are your bride's burdens?

• What are her cares?
• What things happened to her today that are weighing her down?
• What happened that is troubling her?
• What things is she thinking about tomorrow, next week or say 5 years from now that prey on her?
• What's the worst thing that happened to her today?

By asking your bride these questions, you will discover some amazing and important information. These questions help you have a deeper understanding and love for one another.

2. What are your bride's joys?

• What's the best thing that happened to her today?
• Was there a moment that brought her pleasure?
• What is she grateful for?
• What was your brides highlight for today?
• As she looks back over her life, or the past week, what has brought her joy?
• What is she looking forward to in the future?

These questions point our wife to the good things that have been happening. It is easy to be bogged down by the frustrations of the day to day running of the house or work. By asking your wife what good things are happening, it may just help her refocus, but also provide you an opportunity to show appreciation and encouragement. It is also good to pray and thank God for the good things.

3. What's your bride's purpose?

• What's on her mind?
• What are her goals?
• What's she got planned for the day?
• What's she got planned for tomorrow?
• What does she want to plan to accomplish this week, month or year?

These questions are different than the first two. The first two are about experience, whereas this is an action question. They are helping you draw out her heart as to where she finds meaning.

I hope that when you ask these questions, together you and your wife will learn each other's joys, burdens and direction.

I wouldn't be surprised, that by asking these questions, you will win more of her heart. When two people sorrow together, rejoice together, and join together in life task, the result is intimacy and closeness.

Is that not something we men want?

For the glory of God...